In a session with a client who was interested in changing her eating habits in order to improve her health issues, she mentioned that she eats what her husband likes to eat when he’s home from working away even though that’s not what she eats when she’s by herself.
When she’s by herself, the foods she chooses are the ones that really make her feel healthy and vibrant. When she cooks and eats what her husband likes, her digestion and moods start to pay a price.
My question to her was – Is it your presence at the table or what’s on your plate that interests him?
I think it’s important that we ask ourselves this question especially if we are choosing to improve our health by nourishing our bodies with food that works for us and we have to make meals for others in our household that don’t want to follow our new choices.
We, women, are natural nourishers and are often the ones in charge of feeding the family. In fact, that role begins when we become pregnant. Yet, it’s becoming more and more noticable as time goes on, that women are paying the price for being the nourishers/support for others on many levels.
More and more digestive issues are showing up. More and more “auto-immune” issues are being reported to me by my clients. And, interestingly enough, more and more women are making the decision to change that for themselves – which does require a change in habitual food choices that are often related to eating what you grew up on or eating what your significant other likes or eating for convenience.
So, again, back to the question Is it your presence at the table or what’s on your plate that interests him?
When we realize that family dinners are more about companionship, relationship and a time to communicate and share experiences as well as nourish our bodies, then, what’s on our individual plates should be a personal preference.
And, if your preference is to eat something totally different from everyone else at the table for your own reasons, then, do it. Don’t sabotage your journey to great health by falling back into habits or conformity. Don’t worry about what others think or have to say. Remind yourself why you are doing this – for your own health – not theirs.
Some people will make comments, either supportive or non-supportive, as to what you have on your plate. It doesn’t matter as long as you remember why you are making this new way of nourishing yourself key to your growth.
As to preparing meals, get creative with how you can fix both what you’d rather be eating and what the other people in your family like. At first, you might feel like you are preparing 2 separate meals but, I bet it won’t be long before your family or significant other will be wanting what’s on your plate!
And, just keep in mind, that your presence at the table is way more important than your choice of what’s on your plate to your family while at the same time as what’s on your plate is important to your health and your growth. Choose for you!!